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I get by with a little help from my friends…

OK people, the time has come. I am leaving on a jet plane… I’m finally going to travel! The plan is to go to Europe for the month of July… without a detailed itinerary. Aaaaand… I’m going to write an e-book about my experiences! Thanks to a little encouragement from my brother in law… and the support from friends and family… this little adventure just got a bit bigger…

BUT… I need your help. I mentioned previously that I would be putting the call out to you, Dear Reader, for assistance in many ways… here’s how you can help:

I’ve never travelled outside of the US. Ever. I am welcoming any advice from tips and tricks to what to pack.

I am also welcoming suggestions on places to go… cities I HAVE to see. I won’t guarantee that I can get to them, but it’s nice to have some thoughts. I’m not really going to plan everything out day to day. And I don’t care too much about tourist sites. I just want to soak up local color wherever I go.  Also, if you know of any great shows or bands that will be around in July… or festivals… or bars/pubs/restaurants/local beers/etc… I want to hear about it!

Are you in Europe? Do you know someone there now? I plan on using couchsurfing.com when I can… but it would also be nice to meet up and connect and consume some beverages.

I can’t tell you how excited I am to finally make this happen. I mean, if you’ve been reading my blog or if you know me in person, you KNOW how huge this is for me. I’m so unbelievably grateful for any and all support… keep reading… keep sharing… keep commenting… you are all a part of my journey!

Blog song title: “With a Little Help From My Friends” by the Beatles

Recently discovered and I’m learning about you…

One of my favorite things about New York is that you could potentially go out every night and never go to the same place twice. This goes for dining and drinking.

However, I am a creature of habit. And I am a big fan of being a “regular.” As the song goes, “Sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your name.” Since I moved here, I’ve frequented a handful of places enough that I know many of the people who work there and subsequently get greeted with hugs or kisses on the cheek. I love these places. Part of what brings me back is the friendly service, good conversation and in most places, delicious food. And of course, comfort in the familiar.

Lately, I’ve been feeling the need to branch out. A couple of weeks ago, I found myself wanting to go out but nobody to go with… so I went out alone (to a bar I had been to before, yes… but just once) and I ended up having a great time. I bellied up to the bar and struck up interesting conversations with a series of random people. Obviously, this is not the first time this has happened to me, but every now and then I need to shake things up and remind myself how much I love just going out and meeting people.

I need to keep being a tourist in my own city. Living in a city like New York and not taking advantage of ALL it has to offer is just plain wasteful. I certainly don’t shy away from going places by myself… but it is fun to discover new places and things with another person. I’m all about the shared experiences… so come on out with me… let’s go do something different…


Blog song title: “New” by No Doubt

It’s lucky for you that we’re friends…

I recently told someone that I had a crush on them. It was a big risk, especially since I really like hanging out with this person and changing that friendly dynamic was likely. Anyway, I realized about 24 hours later that it wasn’t an actual crush. It was a friend crush.

A few weeks ago I met a girl at a bar. We chatted a bit and even added each other on Facebook (I know, a huge deal) and said that eventually we’d have to get drinks again. It struck me as funny because it was like a “pick up” – chatting, laughing, getting contact info, making plans to see each other again. I even contacted her about getting together and called it a “lady date.” And no, I haven’t switched teams… but I think I have another friend crush.

I’ve asked a few people about this phenomenon. I know I’ve had this kind of “crush” before, but I wondered if I was the only one who had them. By my definition, a friend crush is when you like hanging out with someone and want to see more of them – all on a platonic level. You can have friend crushes on anyone, but it can get confusing when it’s on someone of the gender to which you are attracted. A friend crush can easily be confused as a romantic crush. Which is I think what happened to me with my previously mentioned friend… oops.

And just like regular crushes, friend crushes can get awkward or weird if you let them. In my case, I come off as overeager. What can I say? When I get along with someone, I want to see more of them… sheesh.

Friend crushes are more prevalent with adults because we don’t make friends the way we used to. Once you leave school – the  main catalyst for friend making – it gets harder to make friends. Most people establish friendships before entering the so-called “real world” and maintain those friendships throughout adulthood (or so I’ve been told). The workplace is also a possible friend pool, but I’ve worked jobs where I didn’t want to spend an extra second with anyone there so that’s no guarantee. And unfortunately, I am not in school and I’m still without a job. So where do I meet new friends in this new city? Bars? I guess so.

I’m a pretty independent person and I can entertain myself quite well. I’m not afraid to go out alone and I am content spending lots of time with just me. However, I think the desire to connect with others is in us all (unless you’re a sociopath). I know this is why I’ve done the online dating thing… and why I am developing friend crushes. We want people to “get” us. I want someone to “get” me. I want someone I can call up and say, “Hey, wanna go see Chuck Klosterman in Brooklyn?” and they’ll say, “Hell yeah.” Or, “I’m going to go walk around in Central Park, wanna join?” and they’ll say, “Sounds awesome.” And none of this has to be in a romantic sense (I mean, how romantic can Chuck be?)… sometimes it’s good enough to just sit around and talk to someone about a shared music taste.

So if I get a friend crush on you I will do my best not to seem too overeager. But you should just go with it… I’m an awesome friend.

Blog song title: “Like a Friend” by Pulp
Image: someecards.com 

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